Beginnings and Endings …and the Musings of a Mad Woman

  byJane Dewar

The "Great Wall of Morganton" has begun! (see 25Nov99 update for more details)  Actually the 14 foot high containment wall around the 8 acre habitat of Phase I began construction.  While only some of the footings (foundation) and the steel rebar (over 25 miles in all!) to reinforce the strength of the concrete are in, for the first time you get the “feel” of  Phase I and how magnificent it will truly be.  Other buildings are either completed or underway, including Headquarters (the entrance to the restricted areas of GH), the maintenance building and the vet hospital and staff/volunteer locker rooms.  Once the wall is completed, Silverback Villa will be the first gorilla holding to be built, followed by Bonz’ Villa, then Emma’s and Pitchou’s. Although GH has been a dream of mine for years, seeing the wall in its current state brought tears to my eyes, as it dawned on me – This thing is really happening!

On Wednesday June 28th, the world lost one of the greatest friends gorillas have ever known:  John Aspinall.  See our News Update about Pete Halliday (our project manager) and his background, for more information about this pioneer in gorilla husbandry.  I last saw Mr. Aspinall in April 2000 during my last visit to Howletts, but we didn’t speak.  He was very ill but still on his daily rounds to visit the gorillas with food treats as the zoo was closing.  Howletts began as one man’s dream.  In those days one could still “buy” gorillas and tigers, etc, as pets and Howletts was his personal home and sanctuary for his family –both human and otherwise.  As I sit in my cabin, I am inspired by a man who had the strength of character and conviction to follow his own heart and ignore and often defy the accepted “wisdom” of the professional zoo community.  Aspinall was one of the first to let gorillas live in large groups, where mothers could give birth and raise their own offspring with the silverback present at all times.  Today this seems so obvious it’s in the School of Duuuuh, but back in the early 1970’s it was revolutionary thinking, which Aspinall’s successes bore out.  While Aspinall could be a cantankerous old coot (and I say that with all the love and respect in the world, even though I was personally one of his targets!), his legacy will be the love and respect he showed the world for his animals – from gorillas, to Przesowlski horses to elephants to tigers to Sumatran Rhinos, etc. etc.  This is the end of an era.  His son and brother will take over the operations of Howletts, I suppose.  I only hope and pray they will continue Aspinall’s tradition of Animal’s First, money and all else second -  a tradition which inspired Gorilla Haven from the start.

Our C.A.T. (Chief Attitude Trainer) Crombie (white cat in photo left with sister Kent), who at 16 and a half years old is one of the oldest animals at GH, had surgery on Monday and she survived it, despite the fact she’s so old and her medical condition is dubious at best.  Crombie is one of the old Saddle Club cats from Oakbrook, IL when the travel company I worked for back in the early 1980’s, Abercrombie & Kent, was still working out of old farm houses and trailers.  I found homes for about 11 cats back then, but Crombie and her sister Kent were deemed “too feral” by the local humane society, who suggested euthanizing them.  Instead, we took them to our new 5 acre property where we were building our dream house (subsequently sold to finance our current dream of GH!), where they lived outdoors for 13 Chicago winters.  I brought them both to Georgia in 1997 and while Kent ran away never to be seen again, Crombie ensconced herself into the old burro barn, where she lives a lovely life with 2 other stray cats who’ve wandered in – Balou and Magic.  Crombie is one of my oldest, dearest friends (besides Steuart) and I know this is the twilight of her life and I’m enjoying my remaining time with her.  It’s an ending I know is near.

Another ending is a more personal and painful one, involving someone we had hoped we’d share our happiness and joyful future with, but who has made it clear this is not going to happen.  So we say farewell to our hopes for what might have been and accept, albeit painfully, the reality that some people choose to live their lives in anger and bitterness.  Letting go of something and someone like this isn’t as easy as it may seem, but now that we’ve decided it’s the only way, a burden has been lifted and we’re smiling again, enjoying all the blessings and good fortune we’ve been given and looking at all the wonderful people we’ve met during the past few years, who renew and restore our faith in humanity each day.

Letting go of past pain is difficult but necessary and somehow this week has seen the end of a lot of old painful feelings too.  As these feelings of contentment and joy were taking over earlier this week, I was walking around the property with our dogs all running and playing nearby.  I walked around Lake Bwindi, down by the waterfall (ok, so it’s a running creek with a 2 inch drop off – it’s water and it falls, so it’s my waterfall and nobody laugh!), and up to Akbar Alley, thinking of how my life ended up here and now.  I get asked to do my life story about once a month, from writers and Hollywood producers, but I turn them all down.  Frankly, I don’t really understand why my/our story is so fascinating – you mean not every Yuppy-Gone-Good builds a gorilla farm??  Anyway, I’ve been trying to write my own book, putting me in a more reflective mood.  I was day dreaming, musing about the contrast between the painful endings and exciting beginnings when I looked down and saw a four-leaf clover looking back up at me.  That’s when I knew for sure. The lousy parts of life are there to teach us something, even though at the time it may not seem that way. Life is good, we are blessed and Karma exists and the Universe is smiling down at us.

On this Independence day, naturalized American citizen, Steuart and I (native-born American) are reminded of his late mother's dry wit. At a cocktail party in mid-November years ago, someone asked if the British celebrated Thanksgiving. Without missing a beat, in her best British accent, she demurred: "Oh yes, but in England we celebrate it on July 4th!"